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If anyone is at risk
Try to agree
Child maintenance
If you can't agree
Read next
- Child maintenance: family-based arrangements and the CMS
- MIAMs and mediation: what they are and what to expect
Other situations: We've just separated, We're deciding about the house, Our divorce or dissolution is under way, We're sorting out the money.
Who can actually advise you
Splitt gives general guidance, not advice. For advice on your own situation, these are the people to talk to:
- Family mediatorHelps you both work through the decisions you need to make, without taking sides. A mediator can't give advice, but is usually much cheaper than legal advice.[7]
- Family solicitorGives legal advice on your rights and options, and whether you're getting a fair deal. A solicitor can also ask a pension on divorce expert to look at your pensions.[7]
- Pension on divorce expert (PODE)A specialist who can examine all your pensions, write a detailed report and recommend how to split them.[7]
- Financial adviserGives financial advice, for example on your pensions and how a settlement affects your plans for the future.[7]
Free, impartial help
- MoneyHelper: divorce and separation. Free, impartial money and pensions guidance, backed by government.
- GOV.UK: money and property when you divorce or separate. The official process, forms and fees.
- Citizens Advice: how to separate. Free, confidential advice online, by phone or in person.
- Advicenow: divorce and separation. Plain-English guides, especially if you're handling things without a lawyer.
- Family Mediation Council: what family mediation is. How family mediation works, from the body that sets standards for family mediators.
- Resolution: looking for help. Information from a national body of family justice professionals.
- GOV.UK: legal aid. Check whether you can get help with legal costs, including family mediation.
Find a mediator or family lawyer
- Family Mediation Council: find your local mediator. Search for a family mediator by postcode, including those qualified to sign court forms and those who do legal aid work.
- Resolution: find a law professional. Search Resolution's directory of family law professionals.
Directories run by professional bodies. We don't recommend or receive anything from any listed professional.
Sources
Last checked: 25 October 2026. We read every source below on that date. Rules and fees change, so check the official page before you act.
- Child arrangements: make a child arrangements plan, GOV.UK. https://www.gov.uk/looking-after-children-divorce/make-child-arrangements-plan
- Making child arrangements if you divorce or separate, GOV.UK. https://www.gov.uk/looking-after-children-divorce
- Child Maintenance Service: what child maintenance is, GOV.UK. https://www.gov.uk/child-maintenance-service/what-child-maintenance-is
- Child Maintenance Service: make a private arrangement, GOV.UK. https://www.gov.uk/child-maintenance-service/private-arrangement
- Child arrangements: apply for a court order, GOV.UK. https://www.gov.uk/looking-after-children-divorce/apply-for-court-order
- Child arrangements: after you apply for a court order, GOV.UK. https://www.gov.uk/looking-after-children-divorce/after-you-apply-for-a-court-order
- Split pensions in a divorce or dissolution, MoneyHelper. https://www.moneyhelper.org.uk/en/pensions-and-retirement/pension-problems/split-pensions-in-a-divorce-or-dissolution