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Read next
- No-fault divorce: how it works and how long it takes
- What happens to the family home
- MIAMs and mediation: what they are and what to expect
Other situations: We're deciding about the house, Our divorce or dissolution is under way, We're sorting out the money, I'm worried about the children.
Who can actually advise you
Splitt gives general guidance, not advice. For advice on your own situation, these are the people to talk to:
- Family solicitorGives legal advice on your rights and options, and whether you're getting a fair deal. A solicitor can also ask a pension on divorce expert to look at your pensions.[7]
- Family mediatorHelps you both work through the decisions you need to make, without taking sides. A mediator can't give advice, but is usually much cheaper than legal advice.[7]
- Pension on divorce expert (PODE)A specialist who can examine all your pensions, write a detailed report and recommend how to split them.[7]
- Financial adviserGives financial advice, for example on your pensions and how a settlement affects your plans for the future.[7]
Free, impartial help
- MoneyHelper: divorce and separation. Free, impartial money and pensions guidance, backed by government.
- GOV.UK: money and property when you divorce or separate. The official process, forms and fees.
- Citizens Advice: how to separate. Free, confidential advice online, by phone or in person.
- Advicenow: divorce and separation. Plain-English guides, especially if you're handling things without a lawyer.
- Family Mediation Council: what family mediation is. How family mediation works, from the body that sets standards for family mediators.
- Resolution: looking for help. Information from a national body of family justice professionals.
- GOV.UK: legal aid. Check whether you can get help with legal costs, including family mediation.
Find a mediator or family lawyer
- Family Mediation Council: find your local mediator. Search for a family mediator by postcode, including those qualified to sign court forms and those who do legal aid work.
- Resolution: find a law professional. Search Resolution's directory of family law professionals.
Directories run by professional bodies. We don't recommend or receive anything from any listed professional.
Sources
Last checked: 25 October 2026. We read every source below on that date. Rules and fees change, so check the official page before you act.
- Child arrangements: make a child arrangements plan, GOV.UK. https://www.gov.uk/looking-after-children-divorce/make-child-arrangements-plan
- How to sort out your money on divorce or dissolution, MoneyHelper. https://www.moneyhelper.org.uk/en/family-and-care/divorce-and-separation/how-to-sort-out-your-finances-on-divorce-or-dissolution
- Council Tax: who has to pay, GOV.UK. https://www.gov.uk/council-tax/who-has-to-pay
- Money and property: get the court to decide, GOV.UK. https://www.gov.uk/money-property-when-relationship-ends/get-court-to-decide
- Stay in your home during a separation or divorce, GOV.UK. https://www.gov.uk/stay-in-home-during-separation-or-divorce
- Living together and marriage: legal differences, Citizens Advice. https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/family/living-together-marriage-and-civil-partnership/living-together-and-marriage-legal-differences/
- Split pensions in a divorce or dissolution, MoneyHelper. https://www.moneyhelper.org.uk/en/pensions-and-retirement/pension-problems/split-pensions-in-a-divorce-or-dissolution